I have noticed an increasing sense of the victim mentality lately. You know, the person in life who believes everything that’s wrong is someone else’s fault, not their own.
The Victim comes at life believing the deck is already stacked against them. The Victim always looks around the table with a leering eye, never fully trusting anyone. “Don’t Trust Anyone.”
Stop me if any of these sound familiar.
“So-and-so is against me at work and doesn’t what me to succeed. That’s why I didn’t get the big promotion.”
“Why doesn’t my spouse understand my needs better? He/she must not truly care about me.”
“My professor hates me and that’s why I’m not getting a good grade.”
“If you don’t vote for this politician, your life will crumble into pieces and all y our worst fears will come true.”
“The product I made isn’t selling well because no one understands it like I do.”
You can almost here the pouty “hmph!”after each statement. Allow me to share a lesson I had to learn the hard way:
The world is not out to get you. There is no boogeyman. The sky is not falling.
When you grab hold of this truth, it is so undeniably freeing. You can apply it to just about any situation in your life:
- Relationships. Maybe the reason a certain relationship isn’t going the way you expect is because it’s one-sided. It’s all about you.
- Career aspirations. Maybe the reason you’re not getting ahead in your career is because you’re lazy and don’t add value to the company.
- Politics. Maybe the reason people don’t like your candidate is because that person is, plain and simple, a jerk. No one likes to vote for a jerk.
- Education. Maybe the reason you’re failing in class is because you’re regurgitating what you think the right answer is instead of engaging the material and thinking for yourself.
The Victim believes everyone else is at fault. The humble person, the person who excels in life in all they do, believes they can always, always, always do better. The question for you is, which type of person do you want to be?